D, you made my day

I just received an email from a good friend of mine that contained a long string of emails we had sent back and forth to each other back in August of 2006 when she was considering leaving her husband and I was trying to talk her through it. Now, 2 years later, in this email she tells me that I was right all along.

I cannot begin to tell you how good that makes me feel. Not in a cocky, I told you so kind of way. I feel validated that all my concerns and advice were never ill-intended. It was all coming from a place of love and appreciation for who she is as a person, in hopes that she could learn to see the beautiful person i saw in her.

I was never trying to start this Ex-Wives Club and I dont think divorce is the answer to everything. I dont think all men are jerks. I really think that most of the time, the woman in the relationship shares the biggest responsibility for a relationship failing. We take on this "don't rock the boat" attitude, avoid conflict at all cost. We nurture and enable bad habits. We sometimes take on the "if you want it done right, you have to do it yourself" attitude. We think that asking for what we want (flowers, romance, help around the house, etc) will be considered nagging. They cannot read our minds so ask. Now if you ask for something, whether big or small, and you get a no back, then it's time to make a big decision.

So two years later, this friend has found happiness. She has found self-worth and self-respect. She has found romance and true love and I am so very happy for her. I am glad that she finally sees what I see. So that is one more woman in my book of good that I have helped.

I still have a few more I am working on.... I'm on a mission!